Me first-ting this morning to 2-year old: "Time to get our pull-up off and go tinkle in the potty."
2-year old beauty: "Nnnnooo!"
Me, thinking fast: "But you'll get a mini-Oreo."
That's how the bribe went down.
And that's how we got the Disney princess pull-up off and baby girl's booty on the potty.
I could've sat there for 20 minutes in a power struggle and eventually ordered her on the potty. Because, after all, as a good friend once told me, "you're mom. they have to do what you tell them." Really? Is that how that works?
But a power struggle and a yucky potty experience didn't sound good before my first cup of coffee. So, baby girl got her cookie and got to eat it too! And I got her pull-up off and got her to the potty so we could have an accident-free couple of hours.
Some very well-respected moms I know never bribe their children. They use their power, and it works for them. They are also probably a bit stricter than I am, have more time, and withstand meltdowns much more calmly than I.
For a time, I wished I were more that way. Stricter, calmer, with oodles of time. But that's not my reality. I have two smartie-pants toddlers who have their own strong ideas about things, I work, and at times, I'm just not a calmy-balmy type. So I negotiate with them. I barter. I wheel and deal. And they don't seem all that unhappy about it. I'm not. It's working for now.
But I'm a curious bug, and I wanna know: what strategies do you use when you want or need your child to do something? Is bribery out of the question? Are there negative consequences? I hope I hear from you!